Dodging the Baddie: Finding a Real Wife Part 1

“Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, And obtaineth favour of the Lord”. (Proverbs 18:22 KJV)

The average man doesn't know how to choose a wife. His choices are often based on superficial aspects of a woman, falling into the traps of societal propaganda. Many men pursue women influenced by modern feminist ideals, as the media portrays "baddies" as the ideal women to marry. Unfortunately, guys go for these women, but it usually ends up biting them in the ass.

A "baddie" is typically defined as a woman who is self-sufficient, confident, and determined to live life on her own terms. Western society promotes this type of woman as the one to marry, but this perception is flawed. A "baddie" is not programmed for a traditional relationship or marriage. She can thrive in a relationship with a beta male, someone she can disrespect and control, but struggles in a relationship where she is expected to fulfill traditional wifely duties.

Your goal should be to find a wife who truly fulfills the role, not just someone who is happy to have the title. To guide you in choosing the best wife for you, consider the aspects of a woman being fine, fit, and faithful.

I. Fine

What you see constantly on the internet and social media is not the standard for being fine. There is no universal 10, no "dime piece" that every man on Yahuah's (God's) green earth would rate as a perfect 10. Unfortunately, a lot of women are chasing a specific look because the media keeps pushing it. Many women don't strive to stand out. The media heavily promotes the specific look of BBL (Brazilian Butt Lift) and heavy makeup, which many women aspire to emulate.

Remember, beauty is subjective; it's about what appeals to you personally. Just because something looks good to someone else doesn't mean it will resonate with you. You shouldn't feel pressured to conform to societal norms of beauty. As the saying goes, “Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.” So, when choosing a partner, focus on what genuinely attracts you, not what the world dictates as beautiful.

II. Fitness

When choosing a wife, prioritize her fitness. Being fit means having a healthy body capable of managing daily tasks without undue strain. It's crucial that she takes her health seriously. You don't want to be burdened with someone constantly battling illness due to neglecting their well-being—it's unfair for you to take on that responsibility.

Not every woman with a certain physique is genuinely fit. Many alter their appearance to conform to media standards. Take time to understand her approach to nutrition. Remember, "You are what you eat." Ensure she engages in regular exercise to maintain her health. Some may look good temporarily but struggle to sustain it over time without consistent physical activity.

III. Faithful

When choosing a wife, make sure she values faithfulness. Many modern women prioritize personal freedom over commitment, influenced by feminism and the sexual revolution. They adhere to the philosophy of "Do as thou wilt," believing they can do what they please as long as no harm is intended.

In today's society, many women don't prioritize faithfulness until later in life, influenced by hypergamy and constant attention from men online. They may convince themselves they don't need commitment while they have options, especially when young. If you marry someone with this mindset, she may cheat and leave for someone she perceives as having higher status.

Look for a woman who will remain faithful to you despite temptation, someone who will support you and fend off other suitors. As scriptures say, "A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband" (Proverbs 12:4) and "A good wife is a good portion, which shall be given in the portion of them that fear the Lord" (Sirach 26:2-3). A faithful woman, loving and wise, is invaluable (Sirach 26:15).

In conclusion, when selecting a life partner, prioritize qualities like fitness and faithfulness. Ensure your partner is dedicated to maintaining a healthy lifestyle and values loyalty in the relationship. In a world influenced by various ideologies and societal pressures, finding someone who genuinely respects and cherishes the commitment of marriage is crucial. Look for someone who aligns with your values and is willing to stand by your side through all the challenges and joys life may bring.